Coffee, Dark – Kindness Challenge, Week 4

coffee dark Week 4 of the Kindness Challenge is all about Kindness Role Models. Those people of a friendly, considerate, and generous nature who we can imitate…if, we are open.

I spend time each day in a cozy, warm, and friendly coffee shop in a boat yard on a river. The staff and owners playfully chide me about something or other or we chat about what is happening lately in our riverside town. The regulars, I’m one of them, exchange pleasantries and heart felt interest in the big and small expected and planned changes in a person’s life. There is a playful and energetic hum of customer conversations and customer and staff interactions. Obviously, this environment has a good vibe. The people are good people. It’s the norm. A norm that I enjoy and I’m grateful for. Clearly, I place where I can find a long list of kindness role models.

But, as I sip my satisfying hot coffee and munch on my whole wheat bagel with peanut butter…in a sea of kindness role models, I can’t identify kind behavior and don’t feel the safety, warmth, and joyfulness of kindness. As I look around this hubbub of coffee drinking all I can feel is a cranky, irritated, got up on the wrong side of the bed kinda feelin’. I can’t fully identify the kindness role models and see their loving and generous behavior because my dark, cranky self has blocked the lovely energy and blinds me to all the goodness I’m sitting in the middle of.  To find kindness role models, I must bring my openness and kindness to the table. Lesson learned!

 

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    Rosie Amber

    Good advice, I haven’t started on this week’s challenge yet.

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      Julia

      I’m planning to write a few short ones this week for Role Models. This was how the week started. It was an eyeopener. thanks for commenting. Looking forward to seeing yours.

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    Deborah Weber

    Great observation Julia. I, too, believe we have to be open-hearted to both receive and give.

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      Julia

      Thanks. A lesson I’m being taught now.

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    filcampbell

    Great observation .. how often do we go about wrapped up in our own world of malcontent and blame the rest of the world for being out of sorts .. You’ve given me lots to think about. Thank you
    Fil @ Fil’s Songs and Stories

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    Mary Lou

    Really great! ‘ I must bring my openness and kindness to the table. Lesson learned!’ I realize that even in my own reflection on kindness role models I left myself out ~ the most important of all! 🙂
    http://www.meinthemiddlewrites.com

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      Julia

      Wow that is good one…we can’t leave ourselves out of being a role model of kindness. If I can remember that when people drive too slowly in front of me….that would be awesome! Thanks for commenting!

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